Mediation

Mediation with Karin Carver-Regan:

Karin is passionate about assisting families through the complicated, emotional, and exhausting process of separation and/or divorce. Karin brings both personal and professional experience to the mediation table. Her goal is to help families work through their conflict in order to move on and live harmoniously as co-parents. Karin offers reasonable rates, hassle free scheduling, and a patient approach to mediation.

What is Mediation?

“A process by which participants, together with the assistance of a neutral third person or persons, systematically isolate dispute issues, in order to develop options, consider alternatives, and reach a consensual settlement that will accommodate their needs. Mediation is a process which emphasizes the participants’ own responsibilities for making decisions that affect their lives.” (Folberg & Taylor)

What steps are included in Mediation?

  • Neutral facilitation
  • Orientation
  • Identify issues
  • Set agendas
  • Collect data
  • Develop options
  • Evaluate options
  • Select best option
  • Implement

Is Mediation the same as therapy?

Mediation is NOT therapy – NOT marital or individual therapy.

Is Mediation legal advice?

  • Mediation is NOT a process of providing legal advice or services.
  • Mediation is a process in which a neutral individual assists the parties in reaching a voluntary settlement. Such assistance does not constitute the practice of law. The mediator does not represent the parties.

What are the benefits to Mediation?

  • Mediation has been proven time and time again to be one of the most effective means of resolving conflicts.  Mediation is a collaborative process and allows all the parties involved to gain insight and be heard.
  • Mediation agreements result in the acknowledgement of the participant’s goals, wishes, and hopes for the future.
  • Mediation helps to preserve relationships. Many times, when in conflict, we lose the ability to see from the other person’s perspective.  Mediation can help people communicate in a way that both parties are heard. Preserving a co-parenting relationship is of the utmost importance, as it benefits the children the most.
  • Mediation is faster and easier. Compared to resolving conflicts through a court process, mediation is an effective, affordable, and relatively quick alternative.
  • Mediation keeps the focus on what’s important. Often times, family mediation involves discussing the immediate and long term needs of the child(ren). Whereas it can be easy to slip into old, blaming behaviors, mediation helps to keep the topic on track as well as assists parties into realizing that the child(ren) will need and benefit from both parties being stable and healthy.
  • Mediation has a greater degree of control and predictability of outcome. Parties who negotiate their own settlements have more control over the outcome of their dispute. The parties maintain this control versus giving the decision-making power to an unknown judge, who does not know you and will make life changing decisions regarding you and your family.

How much does mediation cost?  

  • $125 per hour at the time of the mediation meeting. Cash, check, and most major credit cards are accepted.

Karin’s Bookshelf

Books about Divorce | Kids ages 3 to 8

Dinosaurs Divorce, by Laurene Krasny Brown & Marc Brown (1988)
Ages 3 to 7

It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear, by Vicki Lansky (1997)
Ages 3 to 7

Two Homes, by Claire Masurel (2003)
Ages 3 to 7

The Invisible String, by Patrice Karst (2000)
Ages 3 and up

My Family’s Changing, by Pat Thomas (1999)
Ages 4 and up

I Don’t Want to Talk About It, by Jeanie Franz Ransom (2000)
Ages 5 and up

Divorce Is Not the End of the World, by Zoe and Evan Stern (2008)
Ages 8 and up

Was it the Chocolate Pudding? A Story For Little Kids About DivorceSandra Levins (2005)
Ages 2 to 6

Mom and Dad Glue, by Kes Gray (2009)
Ages 5 to 6

The D Word, by Julia Cook (2011)
Ages 4 to 8

Amber Brown Sees Red, by Paula Dan Ziger
Ages 6 to 8

My Mom and Dad Don’t Live Together Anymore. A Drawing Book for Children of Separated or Divorced Parents, by Judith Aron Rubin, Ph.D. (2002)
Ages 4 to 12

Divorce Is the Worst (Ordinary Terrible Things), by Anastasia Higginbotham (2015)
Ages 4 to 8

My Family’s Changing: First Look at Family Break-up (What About Me?), by Pat Thomas and Lesley Harker (1999)
Ages 3 to 7

Books about Divorce | Kids ages 8 to 12

Horse Dreams, by Mary Vivian Johnson (2013)
Ages 9+

When My Parents Forgot How to be Friends, by Jennifer Moore-Mailinois (2005)
Ages 8 to 12

Dear Mr. Henshaw, by Beverly Cleary (2000)
Ages 8 to 12

Where Am I Sleeping Tonight?, by Carol Gordon Ekster (2008)
Ages 8 to 10

Divorce is not the end of the world: Zoe & Evans Coping Guide for Kids, by Zoe Stern, Ellen Sue Stern, Evan Stern (2008)
Ages 8 to 12

The Divorce Express, by Paula Danziger (2007)
Ages 10+

What Can I Do? A Book for Children of Divorce, by Danielle Lowry (2002)
Ages 8 and up

A Smart Girl’s Guide to Her Parent’s Divorce, by Nancy Holyoke (2009)
Ages 8 and up

Books about Divorce | Kids ages 12+

Frequently Asked Questions About Divorce (FAQ: Teen Life), by Rory M. Bergin, Jared Meyer (2011)
Ages 12 to 17

When Your Parents Split Up: How to Keep Yourself Together, by Lynn Rosenfield, Joan Shapiro (1999)
Ages 13+

Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two, by Isolina Ricci PhD. (2006)
Ages 12+

Divorce Helpbook for Teens, by Cynthia MacGregor (2004)
Ages 12+ 

Divorce: The Ultimate Teen Guide (It Happened to Me), by Kathlyn Gay (2014)
Ages 12 to 17

Divorce and Teens: When a Family Splits Apart, by Elizabeth Price (2004)
Ages 13+

Books about Divorce | For Parents

The Truth About Children and Divorce: Dealing with the Emotions so You and Your Children Can Thrive, by Robert E. Emery (2004)

What About the Kids? Raising Your Children Before, During, and After Divorce, by Judith Wallerstein (2004)

Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce, by Elizabeth Marquardt (2006)

The Emotional Life of the Toddler, by Alicia F. Lieberman (2017)

For Better or For Worse: Divorce Reconsidered, by Mavis Hetherington PhD. (2003)

In the Name of the Child: A Developmental Approach to Understanding and Helping Children of Conflicted and Violent Divorce 2nd Edition, by Dr. Janet R. Johnston PhD., Dr. Vivienne Roseby PhD. and Dr. Kathryn Kuehnle PhD. (2009)

Vicki Lansky’s Divorce Book for Parents: Helping Your Children Cope with Divorce and Its Aftermath 2nd Edition revised, by Vicky Lansky (2005)