OUR BOOKSHELF
Our Bookshelf
Alphabetical Order by Topic
Addiction / Substance / Dual Diagnosis:
- Carry On, Warrior, by Glennon Doyle
- Beyond Addiction: How Science and kindness help People Change, by Jeffrey Foote
- Facing Love Addiction, by Pia Mellody
- The Craving Mind, by Judson Brewer
- Lit: A Memoir, by Mary Karr
- Addiction and Recovery in Gay and Lesbian Persons, by Robert J Kus
Anti-Racism:
- So You Want to Talk About Race, by Ijeoma Oluo
- Me and White Supremacy, by Layla F. Saad
- How to Be Anti-Racist, by Ibram X. Kendi
- White Fragility, by Robin Diangelo
- The New Jim Crow, by Michelle Alexander
- Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower, by Brittany Cooper
- My Grandmother’s Hands, by Resmaa Menakem MSW LICSW
- I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World of Whiteness, by Austin Channing Brown
Anxiety & Depression:
- The Chemistry of Calm: A Powerful, Drug Free Plan to Quit Your Fears and Overcome Your Anxiety, by Henry Emmons
- The Chemistry of Joy, by Henry Emmons & Rachel Kranz
- Rewire Your Anxious Brain: How to Use the Neuroscience of Fear to End Anxiety, Panic, and Worry, by Catherine M. Pittman PhD
- Lost Connections: Why You’re Depressed and How to Find Hope, by Johan Hari
Body Affirming Books:
- Body Respect: What Conventional Health Books Get Wrong, Leave Out, and Just Plain Fail to Understand about Weight, by Linda Bacon and Lucy Aphramor
- Embody: Learning to Love Your Unique Body (and quiet that critical voice!), by Connie Sobczak
- The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love, by Sonya Renee Taylor
- Curvy Yoga: Love Yourself & Your Body a Little More Each Day, by Anna Guest-Jelley
- Beautiful You: A Daily Guide to Radical Self-Acceptance, by Rosie Molinary
- Health At Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight, by Linda Bacon
- Yoga and Body Image: 25 Personal Stories About Beauty, Bravery & Loving Your Body, by Melanie Klein and Anna Guest-Jelley
- Beyond Beautiful: A Practical Guide to Being Happy, Confident, and You in a Looks-Obsessed World, by Anuschka Rees
Children & Mental Health:
- What To Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety, by Dawn Huebner, Ph.D.
- I Said No!: A Kid-to-Kid Guide to Keeping Private Parts Private, by Zack and Kimberly King
- I Can Play It Safe, by Alison Feigh
- Help Your Dragon Deal With Anxiety: Train Your Dragon To Overcome Anxiety. A Cute Children Story To Teach Kids How To Deal With Anxiety, Worry And Fear, by Steve Herman
Creativity:
- The Artists’ Way, by Julia Cameron
- Big Magic, Elizabeth Gilbert
- Imagine: How Creativity Works, by Jonah Lehrer
- The Creative Habit, by Twyla Tharp
- Flow, by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
- Drinking from the River of Light: The Life of Expression, by Mark Nepo
Codependency:
- The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today’s Generation, by Melody Beattie
- Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives, by Pia Mellody
Divorce – Adults:
- The Good Divorce, by Constance Ahrons
- For Better or For Worse: Divorce Reconsidered, by Mavis Hetherington PhD.
- Primal Loss: The Now-Adult Children of Divorce Speak, by Leila Miller
- 7 Secrets from the Divorce Whisperer: Saving Yourself, Your Money, and Your Children During Divorce, by Marta J. Papa
Divorce – For Parents:
- The Truth About Children and Divorce: Dealing with the Emotions so You and Your Children Can Thrive, by Robert E. Emery
- What About the Kids? Raising Your Children Before, During, and After Divorce, by Judith Wallerstein
- Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce, by Elizabeth Marquardt
- The Emotional Life of the Toddler, by Alicia F. Lieberman
- In the Name of the Child: A Developmental Approach to Understanding and Helping Children of Conflicted and Violent Divorce 2nd Edition, by Dr. Janet R. Johnston PhD., Dr. Vivienne Roseby PhD. and Dr. Kathryn Kuehnle PhD.
- Vicki Lansky’s Divorce Book for Parents: Helping Your Children Cope with Divorce and Its Aftermath 2nd Edition revised, by Vicky Lansky
Divorce – For Step/Blended Families:
- Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships, by Patricia Papernow
- The Stepfamily Handbook: From Dating to Getting Serious to Forming a “Blended Family,” by Karen Bonnell & Patrica Papernow
- Smart Stepfamily: Seven Steps To A Healthy Family, by Ron Deal
- Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages and Becoming Stepfamily Smart, by Gary Chapman & Ron Deal
- In Their Shoes, by Lauren Reitsema & Ron Deal
Divorce – Kids ages 2 to 8:
- Dinosaurs Divorce, by Laurene Krasny Brown & Marc Brown
- It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear, by Vicki Lansky
- Two Homes, by Claire Masurel
- The Invisible String, by Patrice Karst
- My Family’s Changing, by Pat Thomas
- I Don’t Want to Talk About It, by Jeanie Franz Ransom
- Mom and Dad Glue, by Kes Gray
- The D Word, by Julia Cook
- My Mom and Dad Don’t Live Together Anymore: A Drawing Book for Children of Separated or Divorced Parents, by Judith Aron Rubin, Ph.D.
- Divorce Is the Worst (Ordinary Terrible Things), by Anastasia Higginbotham
- My Family’s Changing: First Look at Family Break-up (What About Me?), by Pat Thomas and Lesley Harker
- Was it the Chocolate Pudding? A Story For Little Kids About Divorce, Sandra Levins & Bryan Langdo
- The Family Book, by Todd Parr
Divorce – Kids ages 8 to 12:
- Amber Brown Sees Red, by Paula Dan Ziger
- When My Parents Forgot How to be Friends (Let’s Talk About It), by Jennifer Moore-Mailinois
- Where Am I Sleeping Tonight?, by Carol Gordon Ekster
- Divorce is not the end of the world: Zoe & Evans Coping Guide for Kids, by Zoe Stern, Ellen Sue Stern, Evan Stern
- What Can I Do? A Book for Children of Divorce, by Danielle Lowry
- A Smart Girl’s Guide to Her Parent’s Divorce, by Nancy Holyoke
Divorce – Kids ages 12+:
- Frequently Asked Questions About Divorce (FAQ: Teen Life), by Rory M. Bergin, Jared Meyer
- The Divorce Express, by Paula Danziger
- When Your Parents Split Up: How to Keep Yourself Together, by Lynn Rosenfield, Joan Shapiro
- Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two, by Isolina Ricci PhD.
- Divorce Helpbook for Teens, by Cynthia MacGregor
- Divorce: The Ultimate Teen Guide (It Happened to Me), by Kathlyn Gay
- Divorce and Teens: When a Family Splits Apart, by Elizabeth Price
Grief & Loss:
- On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss, by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D., David Kessler
- Why Do I Feel So Sad?: A Grief Book for Children, by Tracy Lambert-Prater, LPC
- The Wheel of Life: A Memoir of Living and Dying, by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D., David Kessler
- No Happy Endings: A Memoir, by Nora McInerny
Internal Family Systems (IFS):
- Inner Harmony: Putting Your Self Back in Charge: Based on the Internal Family Systems (IFS) Model of Healing, by Beth Rogerson PhD
Infidelity:
- Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering From The Pain, by Rona Subotnik and Gloria Harris
- After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When A Partner Has Been Unfaithful, by Janis Abram Spring
- Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, by Esther Perel
- Getting Past the Affair, by Doug Snyder, Don Baucom, & Kristi Gordon
- Surviving an Affair, by Willard F. Harley, Jr. and Jennifer Harley Chalmers
Intimacy / Vulnerability:
- The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, by Brené Brown
- The Power of Vulnerability, by Brené Brown
- Daring Greatly, by Brené Brown
- There is Nothing Wrong With You: Going Beyond Self Hate, by Cheri Huber
- Healing the Shame That Binds You, by John Bradshaw
- I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn’t): Making the Journey from “What Will People Think?” to “I Am Enough”, by Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW
- Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, by Susan Cain
- The Power is Within You, by Louise Hay
- You Can Heal Your Life, by Louise Hay
LBGTQIA+ / Gender-queer / Non-Binary + Coming out:
- Sister Outsider, by Audre Lorde
- Untamed, by Glennon Doyle
- Ask a Queer Chick: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life for Girls Who Dig Girls, by Lindsay King-Miller
- Calypso, by David Sedaris
- Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community, by Various
- Queer: A Graphic History, by Dr. Meg-John Barker and Julia Scheele
- Stand by Me: The Forgotten History of Gay Liberation, by Jim Downs
- Transgender Children and Youth, by Elijah C. Nealy
- Sissy, by Jacob Tobia
- Unbound, by Arlene Stein
- The Queer and Transgender Resilience Workbook, by Anneliese A. Singh PhD LPC
- Loving Ourselves: The Gay and Lesbian Guide to Self-Esteem, by Dr. Kimeron Hardin
Coming out:
- (YA) Am I Blue? Coming Out from the Silence, by Marion Dane Bauer
- Mom, Dad, I’m Gay: How Families Negotiate Coming Out, by Ritch Savin-Williams
- Becoming Gay: The Journey to Self-Acceptance, by Richard Isay
- The Other Side of the Closet: The Coming-Out Crisis for Straight Spouses and Families, by Amity Buxton
- Does Your Mama Know?: An Anthology of Black Lesbian Coming Out Stories, by Lisa C. Moore
Life Planning & Goal Setting:
- The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals With Soul, by Danielle LaPorte
Living with Someone Who Struggles with Mental Health:
- Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself, by Shahida Arabi
- Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving the Self-Absorbed, by Wendy T. Behary, LCSW
- Is It You, Me, or Adult ADD?: Stopping the Roller Coaster When Someone You Love Has Attention Deficit Disorder, by Gina Pera
- Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder, by Paul Mason and Randi Kreger
Mindfulness:
- Mindfulness: An Eight-Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World, by Mark Williams & Danny Penman
- Wherever You Go, by There You Are, by Jon Kabat-Zinn
- Coming To Our Senses, by Jon Kabat-Zinn
- Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind, by Shunryu Suzuki
- Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha, by Tara Brach
Neglect & Abuse in Childhood:
- Running on Empty, by Jonice Webb
- Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents, by Lindsay D. Gibson
- The Emotionally Absent Mother: How to Recognize and Heal the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect, by Jasmin Lee Cori
- Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers By Karyl McBride, Ph.D.
- Adult Children of Alcoholics, by Dr. Janet G. Woititz EdD
- Spilled Milk: Based on a True Story, by K.L. Randis
- Reconciliation: Healing the Inner Child, by Thich Nhat Nanh
- It Wasn’t Your Fault: Freeing Yourself from the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion, by Beverly Engel, LMFT
- Healing the Inner Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families, by Charles Whitfield
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder:
- Brain Lock: Free Yourself From Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior, by Jeffrey Schwart & Beverly Beyette
- Everything Is an Emergency: An OCD Story in Words & Pictures, by Jason Adam Katzenstein
Parenting:
- Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child, by John Gottman
- Positive Discipline, Dr. Jane Nelsen
- Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children, by Thomas Gordon
- How To Raise Emotionally Healthy Children: Meeting The Five Critical Needs of Children…And Parents Too!, by Gerald Newmark
- The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self, Alice Miller
- The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, by Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson
- How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, by Faber & Mazlish
- How to Talk So Teens Will Listen & Listen So Teens Will Talk, by Faber & Mazlish
- Finding the Words: How to Talk With Children and Teens About Death, Suicide, Funerals, Homicide, Cremation, and Other End-of-Life Matters, by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D., C.T.
- Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive, by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Mary Hartzell, M.Ed.
- Children Learn What They Live: Parenting to Inspire Values, by Dorothy Law Nolte, PhD & Rachel Harris, PhD
Parenting LGBTQ+:
- The Every Body Book: The LGBTQ+ Inclusive Guide for Kids about Sex, Gender, Bodies, and Families, by Rachel E. Simon
- Pink Is for Boys, by Robb Pearlman and Eda Kaban
- It Feels Good to Be Yourself: A Book About Gender Identity, by Theresa Thorn and Noah Grigni
- Jacob’s New Dress, by Sarah Hoffman, Ian Hoffman , et al.
Polyamory:
- The Ethical Slut, by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
- More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory, by Franklin Veaux
- Opening Up: A Guide To Creating & Sustaining Open Relationships, by Tristan Taormino
Relationships / Attachment:
- The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships, by Diane Poole Heller
- Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love, by Amir Levine, M.D. & Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A.
- Hold Me Tight, by Sue Johnson
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by John Gottman and Nan Silver
- The Relationship Cure, by John Gottman
- Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Couples Up, by Harriet Lerner
- ACT With Love: Stop Struggling, Reconcile Differences, and Strengthen Your Relationship with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, by Russ Harris
- Developing Habits for Relationship Success: A Step-By-Step Guide for Improving Your Relationship, by Brent Atkinson (thecouplesclinic.com/resources/books)
- The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work, by Terrence Real
- And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives, by John Gottman, PhD & Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD
- His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage, by Willard F. Harley, Jr.
- Your Perfect Right: Assertiveness and Equality in Your Life and Relationships, by Robert Alberti, PhD & Michael Emmons, PhD
Self-care / Self-love / Self-help:
- The Smart Girl’s Guide to Self-Care, by Shahida Arabi
- Brave Enough, by Cheryl Strayed
- Self-Compassion: The Power of Being Kind to Yourself, by Kristen Neff
Sex / Intimacy:
- Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life, by Emily Nagoski
- The Guide To Getting It On, by Paul Joannide
- Sexual Awareness, by Barry and Emily McCarthy
- Intimacy & Desire, by David Schnarch
- Passionate Marriage, by David Schnarch
- Sex Matters for Women (2nd Edition), by Sallie Foley, Sally Kope, & Dennis Sugrue
- Secrets of the Sex Masters, by Carl Frankl
- Mating in Captivity, by Esther Perel
Trauma:
- Tapping In: A Step-by-Step Guide to Activating your Healing Resources Through Bilateral Stimulation, by Laurel Parnell, Ph.D.
- The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, by Bessel van der Kolk
- Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma, by Peter Levine
- It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle, by Mark Wolynn
- The Trauma of Everyday Life, by Mark Epstein
- Getting Past Your Past: Take Control of Your Life With Self-Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy, Francine Shapiro, PhD
- The Post-Traumatic Growth Guidebook: Practical Mind-Body Tools to Heal Trauma, Foster Resilience and Awaken Your Potential, by Arielle Schwartz, PhD
ILC Book Club Books:
- Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, by Lori Gottlieb
- The Gift of Therapy: An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients, by Irvin D. Yalom, M.D.
- Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA
- Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – And the Unexpected Solutions, by Johann Hari
Invigorate's Newsletter Archive
Alphabetical Order by Topic
Addiction / Substance / Dual Diagnosis:
- Carry On, Warrior, by Glennon Doyle
- Beyond Addiction: How Science and kindness help People Change, by Jeffrey Foote
- Facing Love Addiction, by Pia Mellody
- The Craving Mind, by Judson Brewer
- Lit: A Memoir, by Mary Karr
- Addiction and Recovery in Gay and Lesbian Persons, by Robert J Kus
Anti-Racism:
- So You Want to Talk About Race, by Ijeoma Oluo
- Me and White Supremacy, by Layla F. Saad
- How to Be Anti-Racist, by Ibram X. Kendi
- White Fragility, by Robin Diangelo
- The New Jim Crow, by Michelle Alexander
- Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower, by Brittany Cooper
- My Grandmother’s Hands, by Resmaa Menakem MSW LICSW
- I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World of Whiteness, by Austin Channing Brown
Anxiety & Depression:
- The Chemistry of Calm: A Powerful, Drug Free Plan to Quit Your Fears and Overcome Your Anxiety, by Henry Emmons
- The Chemistry of Joy, by Henry Emmons & Rachel Kranz
- Rewire Your Anxious Brain: How to Use the Neuroscience of Fear to End Anxiety, Panic, and Worry, by Catherine M. Pittman PhD
- Lost Connections: Why You’re Depressed and How to Find Hope, by Johan Hari
Body Affirming Books:
- Body Respect: What Conventional Health Books Get Wrong, Leave Out, and Just Plain Fail to Understand about Weight, by Linda Bacon and Lucy Aphramor
- Embody: Learning to Love Your Unique Body (and quiet that critical voice!), by Connie Sobczak
- The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love, by Sonya Renee Taylor
- Curvy Yoga: Love Yourself & Your Body a Little More Each Day, by Anna Guest-Jelley
- Beautiful You: A Daily Guide to Radical Self-Acceptance, by Rosie Molinary
- Health At Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight, by Linda Bacon
- Yoga and Body Image: 25 Personal Stories About Beauty, Bravery & Loving Your Body, by Melanie Klein and Anna Guest-Jelley
- Beyond Beautiful: A Practical Guide to Being Happy, Confident, and You in a Looks-Obsessed World, by Anuschka Rees
Children & Mental Health:
- What To Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety, by Dawn Huebner, Ph.D.
- I Said No!: A Kid-to-Kid Guide to Keeping Private Parts Private, by Zack and Kimberly King
- I Can Play It Safe, by Alison Feigh
- Help Your Dragon Deal With Anxiety: Train Your Dragon To Overcome Anxiety. A Cute Children Story To Teach Kids How To Deal With Anxiety, Worry And Fear, by Steve Herman
Creativity:
- The Artists’ Way, by Julia Cameron
- Big Magic, Elizabeth Gilbert
- Imagine: How Creativity Works, by Jonah Lehrer
- The Creative Habit, by Twyla Tharp
- Flow, by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
- Drinking from the River of Light: The Life of Expression, by Mark Nepo
Codependency:
- The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today’s Generation, by Melody Beattie
- Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives, by Pia Mellody
Divorce – Adults:
- The Good Divorce, by Constance Ahrons
- For Better or For Worse: Divorce Reconsidered, by Mavis Hetherington PhD.
- Primal Loss: The Now-Adult Children of Divorce Speak, by Leila Miller
- 7 Secrets from the Divorce Whisperer: Saving Yourself, Your Money, and Your Children During Divorce, by Marta J. Papa
Divorce – For Parents:
- The Truth About Children and Divorce: Dealing with the Emotions so You and Your Children Can Thrive, by Robert E. Emery
- What About the Kids? Raising Your Children Before, During, and After Divorce, by Judith Wallerstein
- Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce, by Elizabeth Marquardt
- The Emotional Life of the Toddler, by Alicia F. Lieberman
- In the Name of the Child: A Developmental Approach to Understanding and Helping Children of Conflicted and Violent Divorce 2nd Edition, by Dr. Janet R. Johnston PhD., Dr. Vivienne Roseby PhD. and Dr. Kathryn Kuehnle PhD.
- Vicki Lansky’s Divorce Book for Parents: Helping Your Children Cope with Divorce and Its Aftermath 2nd Edition revised, by Vicky Lansky
Divorce – For Step/Blended Families:
- Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships, by Patricia Papernow
- The Stepfamily Handbook: From Dating to Getting Serious to Forming a “Blended Family,” by Karen Bonnell & Patrica Papernow
- Smart Stepfamily: Seven Steps To A Healthy Family, by Ron Deal
- Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages and Becoming Stepfamily Smart, by Gary Chapman & Ron Deal
- In Their Shoes, by Lauren Reitsema & Ron Deal
Divorce – Kids ages 2 to 8:
- Dinosaurs Divorce, by Laurene Krasny Brown & Marc Brown
- It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear, by Vicki Lansky
- Two Homes, by Claire Masurel
- The Invisible String, by Patrice Karst
- My Family’s Changing, by Pat Thomas
- I Don’t Want to Talk About It, by Jeanie Franz Ransom
- Mom and Dad Glue, by Kes Gray
- The D Word, by Julia Cook
- My Mom and Dad Don’t Live Together Anymore: A Drawing Book for Children of Separated or Divorced Parents, by Judith Aron Rubin, Ph.D.
- Divorce Is the Worst (Ordinary Terrible Things), by Anastasia Higginbotham
- My Family’s Changing: First Look at Family Break-up (What About Me?), by Pat Thomas and Lesley Harker
- Was it the Chocolate Pudding? A Story For Little Kids About Divorce, Sandra Levins & Bryan Langdo
- The Family Book, by Todd Parr
Divorce – Kids ages 8 to 12:
- Amber Brown Sees Red, by Paula Dan Ziger
- When My Parents Forgot How to be Friends (Let’s Talk About It), by Jennifer Moore-Mailinois
- Where Am I Sleeping Tonight?, by Carol Gordon Ekster
- Divorce is not the end of the world: Zoe & Evans Coping Guide for Kids, by Zoe Stern, Ellen Sue Stern, Evan Stern
- What Can I Do? A Book for Children of Divorce, by Danielle Lowry
- A Smart Girl’s Guide to Her Parent’s Divorce, by Nancy Holyoke
Divorce – Kids ages 12+:
- Frequently Asked Questions About Divorce (FAQ: Teen Life), by Rory M. Bergin, Jared Meyer
- The Divorce Express, by Paula Danziger
- When Your Parents Split Up: How to Keep Yourself Together, by Lynn Rosenfield, Joan Shapiro
- Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two, by Isolina Ricci PhD.
- Divorce Helpbook for Teens, by Cynthia MacGregor
- Divorce: The Ultimate Teen Guide (It Happened to Me), by Kathlyn Gay
- Divorce and Teens: When a Family Splits Apart, by Elizabeth Price
Grief & Loss:
- On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss, by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D., David Kessler
- Why Do I Feel So Sad?: A Grief Book for Children, by Tracy Lambert-Prater, LPC
- The Wheel of Life: A Memoir of Living and Dying, by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D., David Kessler
- No Happy Endings: A Memoir, by Nora McInerny
Internal Family Systems (IFS):
- Inner Harmony: Putting Your Self Back in Charge: Based on the Internal Family Systems (IFS) Model of Healing, by Beth Rogerson PhD
Infidelity:
- Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering From The Pain, by Rona Subotnik and Gloria Harris
- After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When A Partner Has Been Unfaithful, by Janis Abram Spring
- Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, by Esther Perel
- Getting Past the Affair, by Doug Snyder, Don Baucom, & Kristi Gordon
- Surviving an Affair, by Willard F. Harley, Jr. and Jennifer Harley Chalmers
Intimacy / Vulnerability:
- The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, by Brené Brown
- The Power of Vulnerability, by Brené Brown
- Daring Greatly, by Brené Brown
- There is Nothing Wrong With You: Going Beyond Self Hate, by Cheri Huber
- Healing the Shame That Binds You, by John Bradshaw
- I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn’t): Making the Journey from “What Will People Think?” to “I Am Enough”, by Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW
- Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, by Susan Cain
- The Power is Within You, by Louise Hay
- You Can Heal Your Life, by Louise Hay
LBGTQIA+ / Gender-queer / Non-Binary + Coming out:
- Sister Outsider, by Audre Lorde
- Untamed, by Glennon Doyle
- Ask a Queer Chick: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life for Girls Who Dig Girls, by Lindsay King-Miller
- Calypso, by David Sedaris
- Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community, by Various
- Queer: A Graphic History, by Dr. Meg-John Barker and Julia Scheele
- Stand by Me: The Forgotten History of Gay Liberation, by Jim Downs
- Transgender Children and Youth, by Elijah C. Nealy
- Sissy, by Jacob Tobia
- Unbound, by Arlene Stein
- The Queer and Transgender Resilience Workbook, by Anneliese A. Singh PhD LPC
- Loving Ourselves: The Gay and Lesbian Guide to Self-Esteem, by Dr. Kimeron Hardin
Coming out:
- (YA) Am I Blue? Coming Out from the Silence, by Marion Dane Bauer
- Mom, Dad, I’m Gay: How Families Negotiate Coming Out, by Ritch Savin-Williams
- Becoming Gay: The Journey to Self-Acceptance, by Richard Isay
- The Other Side of the Closet: The Coming-Out Crisis for Straight Spouses and Families, by Amity Buxton
- Does Your Mama Know?: An Anthology of Black Lesbian Coming Out Stories, by Lisa C. Moore
Life Planning & Goal Setting:
- The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals With Soul, by Danielle LaPorte
Living with Someone Who Struggles with Mental Health:
- Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself, by Shahida Arabi
- Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving the Self-Absorbed, by Wendy T. Behary, LCSW
- Is It You, Me, or Adult ADD?: Stopping the Roller Coaster When Someone You Love Has Attention Deficit Disorder, by Gina Pera
- Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder, by Paul Mason and Randi Kreger
Mindfulness:
- Mindfulness: An Eight-Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World, by Mark Williams & Danny Penman
- Wherever You Go, by There You Are, by Jon Kabat-Zinn
- Coming To Our Senses, by Jon Kabat-Zinn
- Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind, by Shunryu Suzuki
- Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha, by Tara Brach
Neglect & Abuse in Childhood:
- Running on Empty, by Jonice Webb
- Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents, by Lindsay D. Gibson
- The Emotionally Absent Mother: How to Recognize and Heal the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect, by Jasmin Lee Cori
- Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers By Karyl McBride, Ph.D.
- Adult Children of Alcoholics, by Dr. Janet G. Woititz EdD
- Spilled Milk: Based on a True Story, by K.L. Randis
- Reconciliation: Healing the Inner Child, by Thich Nhat Nanh
- It Wasn’t Your Fault: Freeing Yourself from the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion, by Beverly Engel, LMFT
- Healing the Inner Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families, by Charles Whitfield
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder:
- Brain Lock: Free Yourself From Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior, by Jeffrey Schwart & Beverly Beyette
- Everything Is an Emergency: An OCD Story in Words & Pictures, by Jason Adam Katzenstein
Parenting:
- Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child, by John Gottman
- Positive Discipline, Dr. Jane Nelsen
- Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children, by Thomas Gordon
- How To Raise Emotionally Healthy Children: Meeting The Five Critical Needs of Children…And Parents Too!, by Gerald Newmark
- The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self, Alice Miller
- The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, by Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson
- How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, by Faber & Mazlish
- How to Talk So Teens Will Listen & Listen So Teens Will Talk, by Faber & Mazlish
- Finding the Words: How to Talk With Children and Teens About Death, Suicide, Funerals, Homicide, Cremation, and Other End-of-Life Matters, by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D., C.T.
- Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive, by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Mary Hartzell, M.Ed.
- Children Learn What They Live: Parenting to Inspire Values, by Dorothy Law Nolte, PhD & Rachel Harris, PhD
Parenting LGBTQ+:
- The Every Body Book: The LGBTQ+ Inclusive Guide for Kids about Sex, Gender, Bodies, and Families, by Rachel E. Simon
- Pink Is for Boys, by Robb Pearlman and Eda Kaban
- It Feels Good to Be Yourself: A Book About Gender Identity, by Theresa Thorn and Noah Grigni
- Jacob’s New Dress, by Sarah Hoffman, Ian Hoffman , et al.
Polyamory:
- The Ethical Slut, by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
- More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory, by Franklin Veaux
- Opening Up: A Guide To Creating & Sustaining Open Relationships, by Tristan Taormino
Relationships / Attachment:
- The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships, by Diane Poole Heller
- Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love, by Amir Levine, M.D. & Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A.
- Hold Me Tight, by Sue Johnson
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by John Gottman and Nan Silver
- The Relationship Cure, by John Gottman
- Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Couples Up, by Harriet Lerner
- ACT With Love: Stop Struggling, Reconcile Differences, and Strengthen Your Relationship with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, by Russ Harris
- Developing Habits for Relationship Success: A Step-By-Step Guide for Improving Your Relationship, by Brent Atkinson (thecouplesclinic.com/resources/books)
- The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work, by Terrence Real
- And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives, by John Gottman, PhD & Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD
- His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage, by Willard F. Harley, Jr.
- Your Perfect Right: Assertiveness and Equality in Your Life and Relationships, by Robert Alberti, PhD & Michael Emmons, PhD
Self-care / Self-love / Self-help:
- The Smart Girl’s Guide to Self-Care, by Shahida Arabi
- Brave Enough, by Cheryl Strayed
- Self-Compassion: The Power of Being Kind to Yourself, by Kristen Neff
Sex / Intimacy:
- Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life, by Emily Nagoski
- The Guide To Getting It On, by Paul Joannide
- Sexual Awareness, by Barry and Emily McCarthy
- Intimacy & Desire, by David Schnarch
- Passionate Marriage, by David Schnarch
- Sex Matters for Women (2nd Edition), by Sallie Foley, Sally Kope, & Dennis Sugrue
- Secrets of the Sex Masters, by Carl Frankl
- Mating in Captivity, by Esther Perel
Trauma:
- Tapping In: A Step-by-Step Guide to Activating your Healing Resources Through Bilateral Stimulation, by Laurel Parnell, Ph.D.
- The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, by Bessel van der Kolk
- Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma, by Peter Levine
- It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle, by Mark Wolynn
- The Trauma of Everyday Life, by Mark Epstein
- Getting Past Your Past: Take Control of Your Life With Self-Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy, Francine Shapiro, PhD
- The Post-Traumatic Growth Guidebook: Practical Mind-Body Tools to Heal Trauma, Foster Resilience and Awaken Your Potential, by Arielle Schwartz, PhD
ILC Book Club Books:
- Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, by Lori Gottlieb
- The Gift of Therapy: An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients, by Irvin D. Yalom, M.D.
- Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA
- Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – And the Unexpected Solutions, by Johann Hari
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“Recovery from trauma involves learning how to restore a sense of visceral safety, and reclaiming a loving relationship with one’s self, one’s entire organism.” —Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.